Dealing with Regrets

“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” – The words of nature writer Hal Borland

Perhaps the turning of the year, the coming of flowers and sunlight, is hard for you this season. Perhaps the beckoning of the outdoors reminds you of the swiftness of time, of a sad anniversary, or a past outdoor adventure with a cherished animal companion. For those of us who have lost a beloved friend, a passing season may renew our regret, or even bring self-recrimination.

Because we feel we know and are known by our pets, we can beat ourselves up for how confused or ignorant we might feel when making end-of-life decisions for them. Of course we do our best to imagine what they are feeling; we can listen to what the experts think; and we can still wish they would speak to us and help us know for sure what they are going through, what their wishes are, how we might help.

It’s hard to accept that we can’t know about something so important. And it can be hard to accept that we did the best we could, in the moment or moments we had. Self-acceptance might be, then, exactly what we are being called on to practice right now.

So here’s a practice that may be helpful when you’re drawn into that dark place: try sitting quietly, your body comfortably seated, with a calming focal point. Focus on a point or special image or candle flame. As you sit, concentrate only on your breathing. Imagine breathing into your very center that you are enough; breath in the wisdom that you did your utmost to love, to be present with, and to help ease suffering of your beloved. Breathe out thoughts of love, peace, or a warm farewell.

May the increasing light and warmth bring to us all a blossoming acceptance of ourselves and the completeness of our love.

 

Spring in the desert

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Come to the fourth annual Blessing of the Animals! All are welcome to celebrate the gift of our companion animals on Sunday, October 5th, from 5 to 6 pm.
We invite your companion animal (leashed or caged, please) or insect, as well as (or instead) pictures, stories, and memories. Mask making, face painting, the Soundcheck String Band, and treats for all ages and every being!
Held in Pierce Hall at the First Parish of Brookline, 382 Walnut Street, Brookline. Enter via Walnut Street. SchwartzQuestions? Call Rev. Eliza Blanchard at 774-551-6071.

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